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Single Black Girls Dating Advice

You are a single woman who is frustrated because your life and relationships are humdrum and mundane. Are you waiting for a relationship to make your life begin? It’s time to step out of your comfort zone and begin to live a life that has energy and momentum.

Step 1 – Move out of Indecisive

As a single coach many of the women I speak to are indecisive about their lives and particularly about relationships. They seem to be in a rut and don’t know how to find the time, focus or energy to have it be different.

I suggest that if you want you life to be different you first have to start with your own vision. Step 1 is to build your vision, give yourself time and space to do this – get yourself a notebook, look at all areas of your life, including relationships, and write down how you would life to look.

Step 2 – Moving from trying to doing

Part of the problem for single women is that you do not know how to make the changes in your actions and attitudes. Quite a lot of the time I hear women say that they will ‘try’ to do something.

Now you have a vision how are you going to make this happen? How are you going to convert trying into doing? Step 2 is about learning not just to dip your toe in the water but to make the first step. Look at the work you have done on your vision and ask yourself what is the one thing I can do today which will move me towards that vision? This action will often be very small but it is a step taken and achieved.

Step – 3 Change

In Step 2 I talked about taking the first steps. These may be small at first the aim is for you to get your life in motion and find more energy for yourself.

Step 3 is about how to find that energy. , if you want to achieve lasting change in your life you are going to have to feel successful in the steps you are taking.. What are you really passionate about that you are not doing now? What makes your heart sing? I suggest you concentrate on those areas of life that will bring you the biggest gains first That means don’t necessarily look at the relationship part first, look at those parts that you can achieve on your own.

Step 4 – Commitment to yourself first.

Guess what, you need to fix your life first and a relationship that you desire will follow. This sounds like a tall order but I can assure you it works like that. Your first commitment is to yourself and getting all the pieces of your life in order so that you can have the future that you desire.

Step 4 is you putting your agenda at the top of your list of priorities. Take the situation when you have promised yourself that you will do a particular task that will move you towards your vision. Don’t put off those things that move you further down your path.

Step 5 – Sticking and making a plan to it.

It is so easy to let life get in the way and find yourself back where you were. Therefore the most important part is having a plan for your life and for relationships that will keep you focused on moving forward.

My suggestion is that Step 5 is for you draw up a plan. It will have different areas for the different parts of your life. Now it is time to make appointments with yourself, but your tasks in your diary.

It’s time to step out of your comfort zone and begin to live a life that has energy and momentum.

Step 1 is to build your vision, give yourself time and space to do this – get yourself a notebook, look at all areas of your life, including relationships, and write down how you would life to look.

Step 2 is about learning not just to dip your toe in the water but to make the first step. In Step 2 I talked about taking the first steps. If you want to achieve lasting change in your life you are going to have to feel successful in the steps you are taking.



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